Call any day or night for suicide cleanup information. My Orange County suicide cleanup service remains open day and night, every day. Suicide cleanup may begin once the responsible parties remove an official seal from doors.
What to expect from suicide cleanup.
Expect your suicide cleanup company to send at least one experienced technician trained in suicide cleanup. During suicide cleanup, source materials removed receive a biohazard designation, and if not, destruction of these materials follows.
Thorough cleaning follows. Disinfection follows throughout suicide cleanup, beginning to end.
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Western Views of Suicide
Western views on suicide reflect broader cultural views on religion, honor, and our meaning of life. Unlike other religions, our Abrahamic religions consider suicide an offense towards God. Western religions share a belief in the sanctity of life. This sentiment we find more often in Roman Catholicism.
In protestant religions more emphasis falls upon an individuals shoulders and individual choice. In this view, we work for the "greater glory of God," (Max Weber) rather then destroying an image made by God.
In western societies, suicide became a serious crime in the middle ages. Families of suicide victims were unable to bury their loved one in church cemeteries. Special taxes sometimes required decedent's families to hide family suicide deaths. The state, if not church, seized property belong to suicide victims and their surviving families.
Alternatively, during various eras in Japan, samurai era for one, seppuku brought respect as a means of atonement for failure or as a form of protest. In 20th century Japanese culture, suicide in the form of self-immolation has been used as a form of protest. Kamikaze and suicide bombing as a military or terrorist tactic erarned deep respect from families and peers. Sati is a Hindu funeral practice in which widows immolated theirselves on their husbands' funeral pyres. Such behavior followed or under pressure from their own family or in-laws.
In the West we now argue about medically assisted suicide, euthanasia. In the context of terminal illness, pain and suffering, medically assisted suicide has meaning. Otherwise its only meaning equals murder.
Now we argue about our ethics and a patient's right to die "with dignity." Such arguments were valid during Enlightenment years as David Hume, the British Philosopher, argued for individual rights to commit suicide against the state's laws.
Such arguments resonate with those people suffering from terminal illnesses. Living in sever pain could not possibly add to our quality of life, at least it seems so.
If we look as self-sacrifice to save the lives of others, such an act becomes heroic, not suicidal. TOP
We should reflect on the facts regarding suicide cleanup during periods of criminalized suicide. Remains of suicide victims were sometimes tossed into ditches. If their family was lucky, the deceased made it to a burial, but not in a common church cemetery.
If suicide took place in a very rigid church dominated village, families of suicide victims may have lost their property. We might imagine in these circumstances suicide cleanup occurred quickly, quietly, and without mention of the deceased's whereabouts.
Nature, Suicide in Japan, and Suicide Cleanup
Nature does suicide cleanup in Japan's Aokigahara Forest. As suicides go, Aokigahara Forest represents Japan's leading site for committing suicide.
Called the Sea of Trees, this quiet, secluded forest serves the needs of Japan's suicidal, a "suicide forest." Those visiting the forest to commit suicide generally buy a one-way ticket from Tokyo.
Japan's sagging economy leads more to suicide than any other single reason. Japanese attitudes toward suicide give suicide an honorable way out of debt ridden troubles. The number one place for suicide in Japan, Aokigahara Forest soon buries its dead in snow during winter months. In summer months decomposition returns the suicide victim to earth. Occuring among many trees, bushes, insects and animals, a nature's suicide cleanup practices lead to an anonymous suicide scene.
By year's fiscal end, March, brings growning numbers of suicidal people to Aokigahara Forest.
Suicide Cleanup's Privileged Place
Few types of work compare with suicide cleanup for its privileged place in the world of work. Families bestow a high honor on suicide cleanup technicians by allowing them to cleanup after a family death. Make no mistake about it, no jobs compare with a suicide cleanup.
Only suicide cleanup calls up deep emotional responses because somewhere deep down we know that someone took a path we must dismiss for ourselves and those around us. We know too that somehow the suicide victim chose the ultimate act of self-denial because they lost emotional control over their life.
Honor suicide victims or pray for them, and recall suicide cleanup technicians earn a special place in our society.
Suicide cleanup gives glimpses of life most people never imagine, never care to think about. It's the nature of suicide cleanup that now causes me to write not-so-thoughtful-ideas and some "thoughtful ideas," I've been told. Several social workers have commented on my ramblings and encouraged me to write, to push limits and try to workout some sort of useful approach to suicide counseling not yet thought out.
For certain I intend to continue my suicide cleanup business and continue writing about suicide cleanup. Besides suicide cleanup narratives, I intend to share suicide cleanup tips for those unable to afford a professional suicide cleanup technician.
Suicide Cleanup Narrative
Decontamination - Sterilization - Training and Experience - Prices
Cypress Suicide cleanup begins after the coroner or medical examiner leave the suicide scene. The coroner or county administrator pastes a seal on the door. Only a responsible party, not the suicide cleaner, has the authority to break this seal. When the responsible party communicates to the suicide cleaner their understanding, and when the suicide cleaner responds with his or her understanding, the suicide cleanup begins.
Suicide cleanup may take minutes or days. Cleanup time depends on the type of suicide device, the room, the floor, the walls, the ceiling, the weather, how long the suicide victim remained down, and unforeseen conditions. The location of the suicide may create additional cleaning issues. The suicide victim's size and weight come into play because of fluid dispersal and flow. Even the suicide victim's diet becomes a factor under certain weather and decomposition issues. For more information click HERE.
The below conditions will effect time, costs, price, and work.
1. Bathroom - 2. Kitchen - 3. Bedroom - 4. Living Room - 5. Stairs - 6. Basement
Our cleaning first removes biohazard material, contains and decontaminates these materials (or seals them), and then begins cleaning. Cleaning after a suicide includes scrubbing with abrasive materials, rinsing, and then cleaning again. Areas soiled by biohazard materials are sealed. At times we seal entire rooms. Our cleaning process reduces or removes the death odors.
Decontamination
Ozone gas and chemical fogs help to decontaminate and remove germs and odors. Both tools help to cover wide areas contaminated by flies and other insects. Decontamination requires removing the source material first, although decontamination may start the cleaning process and continue throughout. Decontamination is not the same as sterilization. Sterilization occurs in very few places.
Sterilization
Clean rooms created for scientific research sometimes claim to have a "sterile environment," but even here the possibility for contamination remains high. Many hours of hard labor, thousands of dollars for filters, and millions of dollars for filtration equipment help to sterilize environments. Some authors point to boiling water and steam generated by boiling water as "sterile," which seems logical enough.
Using boiling water and steam to "sterilize" surgical equipment remains a common method of blood cleanup and recycling tools for surgery and scientific research. Otherwise, the use of boiling water has its limits. Boiling water exists under the earth's oceans as it mixes with cool sea water. Shifting continental plates create pressure under the surface and volcanic action releases the boiling water, which becomes habitat for life forms in some cases. This proves that boiling water will not always destroy organisms.
Chemicals like bleach destroy bloodborne pathogen (germs) like HIV, Hepatitis B, and Hepatitis C, but claiming that areas treated with bleach become sterilized cannot be done on a suicide scene, given the equipment and tools available. Reducing micro-organisms and eliminating their conditions for survival, their habitat, is the best we or anyone else can do.
Reducing bacteria count to a level as low as or lower than the pre-suicide act calls for professional cleaning. However, when a family or others must clean, we have pages giving some suggestions at crimescenecleanup.com/Suicide_Cleanup.html
Training and Experience
My experience includes military trauma cleanup and seven years of homicide, suicide, and unattended death decomposition cleanup.
In the military I cleaned equipment soiled by blood and other materials. Many times my own equipment needed cleaning after helping others. I have no fear of blood or death scenes, but I do understand today's bloodborne hazards.
In the active army I served for 3 years, and then 20 years in the National Guard and Army Reserve. During these years decontamination training remained a central part of training for all soldiers because of nuclear, biological, and chemical weapons.
My formal training derives mostly from the Institute of Inspection, Cleaning, and Restoration, IICRC, classes. I took classes from Carl Williams (RIP) a number of times. Carl remains one of the most prolific writers in the Janitorial and Sanitation industry.
Other instructors also offered class work and hands-on work in carpet cleaning, upholstery cleaning, floor inspection, water damage and restoration, mold inspection and restoration (NAMP), crime scene cleanup, and house inspection (AHIT).
Formal Education
I hold an Associate of Arts, general education, Bachelor's in Sociology, and Master of Science in Educational Counseling. I have held many teaching credentials, including adult education, English Language Arts (High School), English as a Second Language, and more.
I have both public and private school teaching experience.
Prices
As a retired teacher without employees, my prices remain below my competitions' prices in most cases. I clean throughout California. If a suicide occurs in a Southern California home, you most likely will not learn about my services until too late because of cronyism. See Crime Scene Cleanup Cronyism for more information on cronyism in coroner, medical examiner, and county administrator offices. Visit CPAC to learn more about the organized crime scene cleaners to stop cronyism in crime scene cleanup.
1. Bathroom
- Air conditioning or heater
- Baseboards
- Floor covering: vinyl, ceramic tile, natural stone, carpet
- Floor: wood or concrete
- Open doors, closets, or drawer
2. Kitchen
- Air conditioning or heater
- Baseboards
- Floor covering: vinyl, ceramic tile, natural stone, carpet and padding
- Wood or concrete floor
- Oil based or water based paint
- Open doors, closets, or drawer
3. Bedroom
- Air conditioning or heater
- Baseboards
- Bed and other furnishings
- Carpet and padding
- Oil based paint or water based paint
- Open doors, closets, or drawers
4. Living Room
- Air conditioning or heater
- Baseboards
- Floor vinyl, ceramic tile, carpet and padding, wood, composite wood
- Furnishings
- Oil based paint or water based paint
- Open doors, closets, or drawer
5. Stairs
- Air condition and heater
- Baseboards
- Carpet and padding, natural stone
6. Basement
- Air conditioning or heater
- Baseboards
- Bed and other furnishings
- Carpet and padding
- Concrete floor
- Open doors, closets, or drawer
I try to keep my suicide cleanup prices low, competitive, profitable..
Also find suicide cleanup information at Crime Scene Cleanup's Suicide Cleanup pages. I provide this information for those callers who cannot afford a professional suicide cleanup cleaner, which I understand. My telephone number remains available for these callers too.
What my suicide cleanup includes:
Suicide cleanup remains a special detail for my biohazard cleanup activities. Homicides remain tragic in their own regard, but suicide must create the more complex questions and emotional responses. I write about suicide almost every day; yet I have not written anything new. Perhaps my writing reflects my unique perspective, but little else.
With years of experience cleaning after violent deaths, our cleaning business proves one cleaner has an upper edge. A solo professional cleaner cleans after suicides nearly as fast as a crime scene cleanup crew cleans an insurance paid cleanup. Why, because crime scene cleanup crews work by the hour in most cases. They have a reason to prolong their work. Imagine two or even three young men taking three or four days to do the work an older man completes in one day.
Eddie works by the job. When the job’s completion arrives, Eddie moves on to the next job. He remains available to return if needed, but this seldom occurs. It has happened, though. Eddie’s experience plays a part in the time that it takes for suicide cleanup a suicide. Sometimes when the job has certain issues, Eddie know immediately that he will remain for at least two days and working to “save time” cannot happen. Overall, expect Eddie to work competently and pinpoint focus while applying experience from cleaning after hundreds of death scenes.
Because Eddie uses flat fees, he will not increase his fees regardless of the time involved. To do otherwise means to him that he’s living in bad faith. Eddie sees cleaning link this. He will earn a lot of money in one day or two days. He will earn as much money on one job as he would as a working at Wallmart; from Eddie’s point of view, he’s doing well making what he makes. You might agree with this perspective.
Besides, consider that as a solo cleaner Eddie has no one to share his profits with, besides his boss and secretary for 41 years, Mrs. Evans.
Besides saving you money and applying his experience for your benefit, Eddie earns his clients’ trust and respect by helping out with a kind and considerate demeanor. His perspective toward professional cleaning means a lot when the need for a crime scene cleaner arises. He sees his type of cleaning as an important form of work and this means a lot to a man with his work experience and skills. He knows too that everything depends on his clients’ satisfaction if he’s to continue experiencing meaning in his work.
For these reasons Eddie receives calls from insurance firms from all over the United States. Some ask for help with invoices. Others want to know about a method used, a chemical used, odors, demolitions, and cleaning questions related to cleaning after a suicide.
Some ask Eddie to clean for them because they know they will receive a master cleaner’s help while paying a fair price. Eddie’s prices cover his costs and reward him with a fair profit, and this after all, helps to give meaning to his efforts, too.
Don’t get the idea that Eddie Evans has the only business with master cleaners and fair prices, others do exist. If you have not already done so, call around and find comparable services and better prices. Keep in mind though, Eddie hires out not only for his services, but for his attitude toward cleaning. Find a smarter choice to call than the crime scene cleaner in control of cleaning after hundreds of homicides, suicides, and unattended deaths? You judge the cleaning companies. Just remember Eddie on the telephone and his no-holds barred approach to sharing information, quoting prices, and explaining his services.
You too have the right to a professional crime scene cleaner with years of experience, with a helping approach, and with cleaning expertise that only a well experienced solo cleaner can offer. So make your telephone calls and prove to yourself what you need, what you must spend, and who you want to clean that horrific scene.
Whatever a cleaner might have on during cleaning, the important idea for cleaners remains safety first. Once the crime scene cleaner removes all the biohazard material, biowaste, and solid waste related to the crime scene, the time to think about odor reduction arrives. So expect odor reduction to follow the removal of the waste products, not sooner.
Complete odor removal follows from gas and chemical treatments. Thorough cleaning for the death scene remains the crime scene cleaner’s work, but knows that this cleaning makes it safe and tolerable for other cleaners to enter and continue cleaning. Painters, air conditioning companies, carpenters, and any others as needed may now follow.
Perhaps odor may go its way within a day or two, which often happens. If it does not, more ventilation will help. Removal of fabrics or washing them will help. Painting helps to disinfect wide areas while reducing odors.
respect by helping out in a kind and considerate demeanor. Angle means a lot when the requirement for a crime scene cleaner arises. There are "bad" angles, points of view that only an employee displays, business angles, and then there's the angle of confidence and a sincere approach to making someone's life less complicated, less troubling. For these reasons Eddie receives phone calls from insurance firms through the US. Not only for his services, excepting his pro cleaning advice.
You too have the right to an expert crime scene cleaner with years of experience, with a helping point of view, and with cleaning costs that only a well experienced solo cleaner can offer. cleaner removes all of the biohazard material, biowaste, and solid waste related to the crime scene, it is the time to think about odor reduction to follow the removal of the offending waste products. Compete odor removal follows from gas and chemical treatments, cleaning outside the bounds of the crime scene cleaner's work, painting, and ventilation, tons of ventilation.
Perhaps odor may go its way within a day or two, which often happens. Odor doesn't disappear the 1st or second day without hours of unsullied air ventilation.
Cleaning after a suicide helps to create a sense of turning away from the tragic event. It helps to instill a sense of getting over the worst of it. Now the time to heal and go on with life arrives. Before cleaning, life seemed to remain stuck; now it seems that someone removed a large weight from your back and now your actions comes more easily. less limited to the horrific scene.
Every suicide leaves a gap in life for others. It turns out that sometimes this gap grows narrow until it almost disappears. To lose it means losing something powerful that gave a twist to life. To allow its existence as a growing chasm of sorrow and regret means that the suicide created sorrow and damage that must pass for everyone's mental health.
Move on with life. No one is to blame.
Eddie Evans owns Biosafe and cleans after death scenes alone, just as he started cleaning alone. Each suicide scene rewards its cleaner by instilling a sense of importance in the work completed. Because nothing really moves forward until cleaning removes debris, there are rewards for the cleaner. On the downside the cleaner knows too well that her or his life remains behind on a death scene and always will. If you find anything of interest here, visit Green Information for information related to environmetal suicide cleanup. |
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Suicide and Emotions
Emotions drive the mind. No doubt about it, controlling emotions stands as a hallmark in western civilization. Remember Jackie Kennedy (Oasis) walking behind President Kennedy's coffin? Not a tear came from her eyes. In her social and economic class, public display of emotions shows more than weakness. It shows loss of control.
We tell little boys, "don't cry." Men do not cry in public as a result, generally. Even in private men do not cry very often. Trained not to cry, they forget how to cry. So emotions need control we've learned from other sources, external sources of control, limit setters. In turn we learn to control our internal emotional limits: no crying.
Controlling emotions causes physical and psychological problems at times. Emotions go awry and so the mind follows. Emotions lose their bearing, their anchor when intoxication by drugs, alcohol, or traumatic news intervenes in our lives. The mind follows the body while trying to solve problems yet to come.
White Male Suicide
Look no farther then US white males for suicide research sources. White US males account for 73% of suicides in the US. So what's going on? There's a lot going on. Consider that for white males the loss of income spells the end of providing for a family. As bread winner their new circumstances wipe out their sense of identity as a provider. For white males this indemnity practically belongs to a primal emotional state. White male suicides remain inexplicable when compared to other demographic groups. For certain unemployment plays a part in emotional loss.
Sociologically speaking, we should expect a higher rate of white male suicides in Orange County, Riverside County, and San Bernardino County, California because of a recent housing foreclosure problem. Many white males have lost their income, too.
Now we should expect the same along the coast of the Gulf states as oil destroys habitat and men and women lose their source of livelihood. In the Gulf we might experience an upsurge in suicide among others, besides white males.
For males, emotional security becomes fear as circumstances change and identity falters. This fear arises with a power struggle with a shared experience of powerlessness, wanting to belong and not belonging. Wanting to be loved and feeling unlovable. Wanting to be loved and seeing yourself as unlovable.
It's not me good enough. The human specie's insecurity finds its expression most certainly in white male suicides. Suicide cleanup so often tells its own story about white males in crisis. Suicide cleanup technicians need not look far for evidence. Fear drives suicide in many cases, a fear of lost identity and alienation from others.
How might we avoid those emotions so common to humanity and so feared? We all know that given the right conditions suicide becomes a choice for many of us. Agonizing pain destroys the quality of life almost instantly. Anxiety from real or imagined threats creates paranoia beyond our imagination. Loathing arising from relationships gone bad creates an urgency for getting away from the other.
By dismissing suicide in any and all crises situations, we all choose to move forward. These thoughts come to me because suicide cleanup remains a serious and big part of my life. When cleaning after a suicide my mind wonders and I ask questions, why?
When the suicide victim's war trophies and pictures adorn the room I know what to expect from this second world war veteran. When a walker stands in the middle of the room I know mobility became a problem for this veteran and suicide victim. Dozens of medication bottles littering a night table tells me that this suicide victim's quality of life plummeted with his health.
My experience tells me that pain and loneliness may have played a role in the victim's suicide. His life no longer meant anything to him and his family and peers were no longer here to help. When the suicide victim's ceiling fan shows one large bullet hole through it I know the suicide victim died without caring. When a bloody computer, keyboard, and monitor remain on, I suspect intoxication. When the deceased died at seventeen,
intoxication, anxiety, and depression played a role, most probably. It seems that June brings forth teen suicides because drugs and alcohol from friends, weapons from the Internet, and failing out of high school lead to an intoxicated, suicidal moment for a confused teenager.
No doubt about it, teen suicides have a deep emotional source in others. Teen suicides occur when teens feel overwhelmed by relations with others. They lack the skills to dissociate. They experience a fear not often experienced since their early years when parent left their eye sight. Abandonment by significant others, such as parents, creates a deep fear in most people.
Causing a teen to abandon close friends takes special words and actions. These words rarely exist in a child not accustomed to external limit setting. So why would we expect internal limit setting, an emotional change where emotional change occurs more by circumstance then reasoned control?
Teen peers easily change their relationship with parents as parental begin to take a backseat to peers' recognition. As teens turn away from their parents, they may become unreasonable. Reason finds little space in an emotionally controlled mind. What matters to an emotionally driven teen becomes a ruthless controller of their emotions. Nothing, but a sudden rebuke, will break the bonds between close, teen friends.
Where a 10 year-old females close attachment to a mother begins to wane at 14 years-old, a boyfriend may become a powerful source of external control. If the boyfriend smokes cigarettes, expect the female to take up smoking for a life-time. The power of peer pressure easily kills without the victims realizing what's coming.
Peer pressure kills.
Place yourself in a teens shoes. Your emotional balance remains off-balance because hormones rushing through your veins change quickly. Growth patterns explode. New social relationships grow daily and become significant. Before long significant others become the most important persons in young lives. Break these relationships and sheer unavailability of the other causes an emotional void of its own.
Add poor grades, parent neglect or abuse, and teens become vulnerable to an idealized relationship seldom sustained by the realities of human experience. Suicide may follow where the past and future no longer matter. When the present hurts, psychache causes its own pain as negative emotions flood the mind.
The suicide victim once took communication for granted. They believed their words meant something and changed their world when needed. Facts now prove different. Their position or beliefs are no longer comprehended or accepted. They were surprised, puzzled, and usually hurt by what they experience. Emotions spill over and tragedy may follow in the form of suicide. Suicide cleanup reveals teen suicides occur for what seem trivial reasons, like a misunderstanding with school friends or an angry teacher. Nothing the teen says changes their world. The emotional limits now exceed reason.
At this time in young lives, feeling alone and abandoned becomes dangerous for the emotionally traumatized, however simple these emotions may seem to more sophisticated, surrounding adults. Loving, caring parents may easily miss their child's suicidal gestures because, "What could go wrong in such a young life?".
A suicide in a new car by a lady cancer victim tells me that she took care to spoil no more than necessary.
Damage to her driver's seat and carpet below reflect that in her final moments, she placed a blanket or coat over her head. Normally, I do not read suicide notes during suicide cleanup. For some reason I wanted to read this note found under the driver's seat.
This time I brook with my own limits and read my first suicide note during a suicide cleanup. I had to know. Our suicide victim began by explaining her suicide to a pastor. Her shame at taking her own life lead to dying alone by handgun. She probably died with tears running down her cheeks as she wept from memories soon to end. In her case, she had no medical insurance, lost her job, and cancer related pain had begun. She chose to take her own life instantly by suicide then die at great expense to someone else, and in pain.
She pulled the trigger, and as suicide cleanup goes, my job didn't amount to much. By shielding her head the cranial debris remained local to her seat. Her emotional horror ended. My suicide cleanup task began by removing blood from her seat. I felt an emotional attachment to this suicide victim because I read her suicide note. I paid a price to know, a Faustian bargain. |
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Another suicide cleanup followed a female suicide in her home. Her husband gave up tenure at a local university. He came home from school one day announced, "I'm leaving education" To the suicide victim this change came as a great shock. She had married a young man dedicated to higher education. Now he decided to leave some part of what she had agreed to marry, economic security and a husband in a socially respected position.
As time passed the suicide victim chose to grieve for the loss of her husbands position. She lost control of her emotions. As bills piled up, as her husband remained at home, she endured new unknowns where before she experienced security and some power over her financial future.
A new male appeared in our suicide victim's life where the older, more reliable husband existed. She kept her usual attitude and understanding of their relationship. She kept her emotional limits to their old relationship. As a result, metaphorically speaking, she chose to break their relationship by ending her life.
Had the husband or someone else helped the wife transition into a younger female, younger in terms of her emotional commitments and limits, She might have grown to compliment her husband's new place in life. We might wonder and argue over her husband's role and lack of responsibility, for sure. For this situation the wives experience a go-along-to-get-along change in character. Where drug and alcohol addiction move the male partner to emotional acting out, the female has little choice but to go along with change, however troublesome. Sometimes a female partner may change to suit the new circumstances and enjoy the new adventure when emotionally controlled consequences point to life-affirming outcomes.
Before committing suicide, our wife divorced her husband. With her social connections gone to the university and her husband, fear of isolations set in. Out of new tensions and she continued her old female limits, rather than adopt a new female set of limits. We might say that she failed to adapt, grow, or learn to be a new person without her old husband.
Had our suicide victim bonded (again) with her new male, she too could have experienced a new woman, a new self identity.
So whose to blame? We might say our husband carries full responsibility. But one thing I've learned from suicide cleanup, we never know what anyone really thinks. Suicide cleanup gives glimpses of other peoples' worst moments, ever, but suicide cleanup alone does not enlighten as to what others think or experience emotionally. We might say "something terribly wrong" happened, but little else with certainty. We can only guess during suicide cleanup what pictures, toys, suicide notes, weapons, and types of suicide mean.
Old reactions continue. Our female thinks, "I can stop this from happening." Her husband may have been the only person in old female's life that she could trust, but this new husband means instability, loss, and fear. The security of her relationship collapsed almost instantly.
Our old male became a new male when experiencing deep emotions. He abandoned his old male for a new alien male mind set. No wonder his wife lost faith in him. Still, our old female's emotional crisis grows as she fails to place limits on her husbands new self. Tensions increase. lessen, Their relationship becomes more like a new male to an old female. Everything they have they have together. Now there's little bonding between the too.
A little bit of fear soon grows to an emotional wasteland of not belonging. Fear arises. Over eating, over shopping, over spending all point to a fear of powerlessness. These experiences are the powerlessness itself, and fear moves these experiences.
Alcoholism, drug addiction, and other powerlessness struggles mask our pain of powerlessness, a fear producing pain arises. Oftentimes during suicide cleanup whisky, vodka, and other alcoholic beverages litter suicide cleanup areas.
We all need a healthy mind. Our minds need a healthy balance between fear and love. Staying in a place of fear requires a deep look inside, An honest self-appraisal could release an authentic sense of power.
Physical sensations in the body from frustration, withdrawal, shouting, and impatient acts cause robotic reactions. Sensation in our bodies occur and we sometimes fail to set limits to our emotions. A tightening in the chest, neck, and shoulders may follow our failure to set limits on emotions.
Whatever these sensation are, awareness of them as helps emotional control and rational decision making with life affirming consequences. This means responding rather than reacting. Deciding to look at intentions and actions that will create healthier consequences.
This means reaching as much authentic power possible as we create our healthiest consequences. For a person to decide, to choose their intention, what they do in this moment remains an eternal question. For the white male choosing life-denying intentions fills a void created by a vacated sense of power. Once confirmed by a white male's place in our western culture, our US society's affirmation of white male's power wane's as we become unemployed, become alcoholic, drug addicted, sick, and otherwise changed from our younger, more influential selves.
At this present moment, ignoring the past and future, the suicidal teen falters to choose a creative, life-affirming intention. At this moment a choice for suicide moves forward unless a clarifying experience or life-affirming, significant other intervenes, suicide may follow.
No one learns these ideas from suicide cleanup. From suicide cleanup one learns to disinfect, remove, clean, and clean some more. One begins suicide cleanup by saying, "don't look." Over time the suicide cleanup technician learns to look and chooses what to seek when looking.
Choosing to look for signs of powerlessness, fear, anxiety, self-doubt, and defeat often returns the signs catalogued above.
The wise idea for the suicide cleanup technician to keep in mind is that it is not their concern. "All things without remedy should be without regard, what's done is done." (Lady Macbeth)
Before I leave this writing for the time being, I need to explain that I own other suicide cleanup web sites. I own these web sites to help share my services. I also own these web sites because I used to help others share their services. Over time these other suicide cleanup companies went out of business because of local government cronyism. Usually this cronyism, corruption, manifests itself in coroner's offices, medical examiner offices, and county coroner offices.
There are other sources of suicide cleanup cronyism in local government. We find detectives practicing suicide cleanup cronyism as well as regular police officers, fire fighters and others. In some states, counties, and cities, cronyism infects entire departments and honest employees look the other way. The consequences for pointing out corruption mean loss of employment.
What about suicide cleanup as a job?
We consider suicide cleanup a biohazard cleanup activity. Homicide cleanup leads to few after death cleaning jobs because homicide accounts for fewer than 10% of my work. Suicide cleanup and unattended death cleanup often include the same issues. Since suicides usually occur unattended, the same issues with unattended death cleanup follow suicide. Likewise with e ecomposition cleanup. Decomposition often follows unattended deaths and suicide cleanup. Trauma cleanup often leaves more blood then some homicides and suicides. As long as the deceased remains alive and immobile, bleeding continues. All these fall under the rubric term biohazard cleanup.
So what about a job whatever you call it. Few jobs for crime scene cleanup exist in the United States or any other country. The few that do exist exist as part-time, on-call jobs. None pay $100 per hour as the reader may have read on an on-line magazine. Read "How Crime Scene Cleanup Works" for a different way to think about crime scene cleanup, or suicide cleanup, if you like.
What you need to know is that our local governments deaths's administrator's now control much of the work. The send grieving families to their own companies or companies belonging to friends and relatives.
Let me help by saying, if you have a business at the moment and it pays your bills, you might survive in the biohazard cleanup business. If you hope to start punching a time clock and earning a living wage, you're dreaming. Some times biohazard cleanup companies do hire people, but not often.
If you look for work as a water damage restoration employee with biohazard services, you may find some biohazard cleanup work as add-on to your normal duties. I hope this helps.
Eddie Evans
Crime Scene Cleanup
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